What to do if parents find out thier child behaves well at school, but not at home?

5.老师说孩子在学校很乖,但在家并不如此,妈妈该怎么办?

因为在家里缺乏一致性容易让孩子产生困惑,比如说吃饭的规矩,家人会藉着吃饭的过程谈天说地增进感情,但对孩子就要求快快吃完,自己玩去。這些模糊的界线让孩子无所适从,所以家里设定一些规矩明确的告诉孩子哪些是不可逾越的,而且要坚持这些规矩不能隨时改变。另外孩子在家里表现不好要及时和学校反映和沟通,寻求老师的帮忙,让该子尽快调整。

Many parents may always ignore the fact that most family environment lacks consistent habit and time schedule usually confuses children; for example, parents usually ask their children to eat up quickly and then play by himself while parents sit around dinner table, keep talking to promote emotions, and barely eat. These unclear family habits and unwritten rules makes it very hard for a young child to make choice on which to follow; therefore, parents should set up clear rules at home and tell their child what is allowed and what is forbidden; more importantly, parents  should always adhere to those rules and can not change those rules just by their mood. In addition, parents should always talk to teachers if they find out the child does not behave himself at home; since teacher may know more on how to help child in maintaining good behavior and give parents helpful advice on how to maintain good behaviors at home.